“But controversy = more visitors to your blog!”

Yeah… about that. This is maybe going to be the most controversial thing I’ll ever post here, so brace yourselves. All three of you.

I’m not interested in arguing with people on the Internet.

Let me say that again.

I’m not interested in arguing with people on the Internet. 

I just have no interest. I’m right about everything, because obviously I wouldn’t go around being intentionally wrong now would I? And that’s what everyone else thinks too, so what’s the fucking point? If we disagree about something I really care about, I don’t want to be around you. If we disagree about something I don’t care about, I’m even less interested in having some sort of debate about it. People pretend that there’s some sort of intellectual superiority in exposing yourself to ideas that you disagree with but they’re usually people who have shitty views, or like to argue for the sake of arguing. As far as I’m concerned, ideas are a lot like food: you usually only need a small sample of each to judge whether you should explore further. You’re never going to convince me that Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminism is anything but bigotry, and I don’t need to eat one more bite of past/current/future “worlds hottest pepper” to know that they’re going to make me want to puke out my tongue and shit out my goddamned intestines.

So if you’re reading this blog, you probably know me from social media or you’re sitting on my couch right now. If you know me from social media the things you read here are probably going to be things you agree with. If you don’t agree with them for some reason, feel free to keep it to yourself* because I’m NOT HERE TO ARGUE! And don’t be surprised if we start to argue on Twitter and you get blocked one tweet after I ask you to stop arguing with me. Because here’s the other bit about arguing on the Internet: it is really bad for my mental health. When I “get my blood up” it doesn’t come down easy. Plus, I think looking for people to argue with puts me in a bad negative emotional space that comes with an unhealthy “high” that I should probably avoid. I don’t know what the rest of you get out of it, but I won’t and really can’t join in. If you see me joining in, or even taking sides in an argument, I’m probably not feeling very good about it and it would be better if I stopped.

If that means I wind up with a ton less social media interactions and nobody but my wife and cats reads this blog? I can live with that. The same way my cats are annoyed to be inside cats and also as safe from harm as I can possibly make them, I would rather be a little more lonely if it means I’m a lot healthier mentally and emotionally. That’s a trade-off I’m happy to make.

*Sharing alternate cooking ideas is fine… I guess.


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